Our Family ~ April 2017

Our Family ~ April 2017

Friday, April 14, 2017

Upcoming UFA Events

As you know I help run the local CO chapter of United For Adoption.  I do not make any money but, get paid in positive energy and love! Helping families, expectant moms, birth parents and adoptees connect and have a sense of community is so needed and a HUGE part of my heart!

Here's what on the Horizon for MAY...




Here's this YEARS Birth Parent Retreat too!
If you are reading this and want more information on any of these events- leave a comment of message me!

Adoption support and community is so important to all involved and we are blessed to be surrounded
by many adoptive families here in Evergreen, where we live. In my kids' school classes there are at least three-5 adopted kids in EACH class- its pretty awesome and pretty normalized here. 
Have e wonderful SPRING!

til Next time!

Thursday, April 6, 2017

In All Fairness...

Over the last couple of days, I have been talking with different Agencies and attorneys and I needed some time to reflect upon all this new information I've been processing. I've been talking to ones in the East and MAN, they do things very differently over there and I'm kind of taken aback- like WAY BACK- 50 yrs or so... WHY? Because one agency told me they are TRADITIONAL meaning they are not FOR open adoptions at all. In Fact, you never meet the expectant mom before she has the baby and you don't come to the hospital or anything until papers are signed.

In my heart, that's not right- how would you NOT want to form a relationship with the woman who is choosing you to parent Her child? And in that sentence, I realized that back even 15-20 years ago- most women didn't even have the choice to meet the couples hoping to adopt. That just wasn't the way they did things.

Any who, now things are different and We have the choice to build relationships if that's what the expectant mom wants . And right there is where My heading comes from! IF THAT'S WHAT THE BIRTH MOM/PARENTS WANT...

SO, in all Fairness to the future child/ren we adopt- WE MUST choose the side of love and OPENNESS with whomever chooses our family. I'm sure this will be something they want too- it will be more natural and not forced but may look differently than what we have now.. I can't have my three kids now getting visits ( however they may look) and have one or two kids getting no visits/letters/ packages/ chatting on the phone with them etc. My kid's birth parents are all unique and different and we love them- as they are and of course, hope for only the best in their own lives. I'm blessed every day that they choose to communicate and love on the kids and our whole family. Every visit is treasured, even if it's short. Even if it's just asking each other lots of questions or a quick bite to eat or visit at the Park. Not every vacation is going to be like Peru or Hawaii together but, Each is important and I can't deny one kid that while the others have it.



I've watched from a distance my friends kid have horrible depression b/c she watches her brothers' birth mom come and visit and her birth mom hardly ever sees or calls her. Its too hard on a Kid and MORE LOVE IS ALWAYS BETTER. But, of course if the birth parent needs to step back for a while- then of course it will happen. We all heal in different ways and times of our journey.

 SO, I will not Willingly and knowingly go into a closed or semi-open ( meaning only pictures/letters once a year) adoption. It's just not gonna happen. WE love our kid's birth parents, cousins, aunts, uncles , grandmas & grandpas WAY TOO MUCH! Totally blessed by you all!!!!

PS- we had a visit with Kara last week for 3 days, Jessica for two days and in FEB had a trip to Peru with Dustin and Gma Tammy. And if you didn't know- Josh ( uncle josh who is Dustins little brother- lives with us currently)

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

Being Vulnerable

Oh My Word- this has to be one of the hardest things for most of us to do. Like how often do you meet someone you want to impress and just unload all things private and sacred in your life on them? Practically Never! The same goes for Being In the Adoption community/world. It's a HARD space full of judgement on all sides. And most of those things we all judge each other on, are irrelevant in nature!

Who Cares if you are a stay at home or work at home mom or if you cook dinner ever single night for your kids with 3 different tastes. Who even cares if the expectant mom is living on a diet of kool-aid and Cheetos.  The THING I've learned through adopting 3 times is that YOU have to LET things GO that don't matter and you have to LOVE someone where they are at! You can't wish someone better or change the fact that the Adoptive parents let the kid read Goosebumps at age 9 when you think they are too young. Just Stop it.

Let's focus on Building each other UP and seeing the best in one another- even when we aren't at our best.  Prime Example: A friend of mine who is just looking into adoption made a comment to me about the circumstance of an EM who is... ( how do i say this nicely;/) an Escort. My friend continued to berate this womans' choices that led her to the place where she is at ( placing baby for adoption soon)
She criticized her lifestyle choices and said she didn't deserve all this help ( birth mom expenses) when who knows what she has been doing with her life, baby's health might be etc. It was tough truth coming from my friend but, not what we should be focusing on.

Instead she could have said something like this " Although, I'm opposed to her lifestyle choices, I'm glad she sees the choice to place as the best option for this baby- what a Strong will this woman has to think of the baby first and try and get out of the occupation she is in. I'm happy to help out a woman in need with some financial help and happy to apply to adopt the baby , if she sees me as an option. " 

Godly Love, is something the World over- lacks! When we see other's as God sees them- it's simply easier to Love our fellow brothers and sisters, without judgment.
Let's Face it- we will never see completely eye to Eye with everyone. I don't even see eye to eye with my hubby on everything. The Married couples who say they never ever fight are either lying or one is repressing their own voice to appease the other and not being true at all times. Yet, we still need to be WISE with our sharp tongues and be able to think before we speak as we share our opinions, emotions, views and experiences.

SO, Here we are- Being vulnerable to ALL THE CRITICISM of the World again. I know it's coming and i will pull down the shades to IGNORE the crap out of it. Because the RIGHT people who are FULL of LOVE and real with themselves- won't sit there and judge us.  YES, we do have 5 kids, YES, life is a bit chaotic at times but it's nothing we can't handle together. Chaos only lasts for so long. Dishes can stay in the sink over night and every LIVES! Surprise-  You are a GOOD PERSON- YOU - the PERSON reading this POST! Yep, you are DIVINE, WONDERFUL and BEAUTIFULLY MADE to shine in this world like no one else can!  AND YOU can BE Vulnerable as you Share your Heart with the World.

I won't listen to haters and i will be TRUE to who I am and who I am Becoming through Christ and His Atonement. So, Here's some vulnerable facts/ info that you may or may not like...

I hate cleaning ( its downright sucks) and my house is NEVER perfect ( unless friends are coming over and true friends know i have a counter full of clutter almost every other time they stop by) BUT, i still have to do some of it and I HIRE out help- so what, right?

I am currently working on my whole Health right now. My body is NOT where i want it to be and i need to drop some weight ( like 12lbs ish) It hasn't been the same since i did the hormones to try to Nurse Celise. It was worth the effort for bonding that first couple weeks but, the hormones screwed my metabolism and hypothalamus up big time. I've lost 6/7 already but it took 6 months and I'm undoing this mess i created in my body now. ( hormone balancing therapy to come) I'm not lazy- i work out about 4-6 times a week and i LOVE being outdoors - tomorrow I'm snowboarding) So, i won't be trying to nurse our next adopted baby/child either. My kids received donated Breast milk for 4-6 months each and i use formula- hope you don't judge me for either of those.

I actually HATE receiving GIFTS unless you know i need/want them or they are extremely heartfelt. I always have. BUT, i love GIVING GIFTS- so odd, right? And i like them to be purposeful and needed as well as cute when possible!

KONA, HAWAII ( I freaking LOVE the OCEAN)
And I cannot wait for Summer- I HATE homework and being in charge of helping our kids to get cap like that done ( unless its fun like crafty and dressing up for a character or writing a story etc) But, I do it anyways or get a tutor.

What about YOU? leave a comment- Tell me something about you we might not know!
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Until Next time- GO AND LOVE YOURSELF AS YOU ARE and BE OPEN AND VULNERABLE- we all need authentic, honest, raw truth with ourselves and our friends/ community. Be THAT!

Going to conquer my mountain of dishes now- wish me luck!


Monday, March 27, 2017

WHAT A DAY!


Our Court Day was Epic! Of course a few things
had to be changed up... like our judge, our courtroom and a few people getting lost in the changes but, overall. It went well! The kids got to answer ?'s and it was unlike any other court date we have had. I hope and pray our kids will remember this and retell Celise about the Day she became an Official Christian Family Member!


Here's a CUTE shoot i did of all her sweet little rolls, creases and bit parts too. It's so important to enjoy every day as kids grow so quickly and life on Earth is short.

As a mom, i feel like I'm becoming the Mom on The Goldbergs ( if you haven't seen this show- it's hilarious and about the 80's90's). I want to KISS and snuggle my schmoopies until they can't take it any more. I know why my mom always wanted a hug , a kiss a time with just me- because time is fleeting! In a blink- they are off to college and starting families of their own ( well not quiet a blink but, you feel me, right?). 

And Now there are only 5 short weeks until our little CeCe Girl turns 1! Oh the planning and preparing is commencing and ordering all her sweet things and creating a Fuss is happening everywhere. I can't believe it!

As for her birth parents, Dausi, is doing well in Her Center in SJ and learning a lot about how amazing she really is, free from her vices. She is learning of God's love for her and gaining some great friends while doing it. It's not all roses and rainbows but, she is doing the best she can and we are proud of her!  Eljay ( formerly known as Alan) is doing well too! He and S are looking for place to call their own to raise A in and she is such a sweet peach. I totally look forward to seeing both Dausi, her mom, Eljay and his family this summer on our long road trip. Each experience brings us closer and we are growing step by step and learning about each other as we do! Eljay has a job and is working on an undergrad school program  as well. We are so excited for all of them!

We get to text and talk with Eljay and fam usually every other week-ish and with Dausi, we can just send letters and packages right now but, soon we will get to chat on the phone again. I called her center and begged for us to do facetime on Celise's birthday so, i think we will get to do that too!


Well, on top of that - we have been enjoying Snowboarding, playing outside, digging and planting of 
flowers, finishing house projects and currently enjoying spring break! The kids are excited to play with friends, go to the zoo and just veg out a bit more!


And all our goings on can be found on our FB pages so check out our sidebars for those links!


Till Next time
~CC

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Almost at the finish line

Sheesh! It's seriously going by so quickly and I can't believe Celise is 9 months now and we had a few hiccups in the court doc process ( nothing negative- we had a judge who wanted a few things the agency thought they wouldn't need)and now in a week- we will be Adding CeCe to the official Christian Clan roster! Woot Woot!

Enjoy some pics from the last couple of months of this growing beauty!

at Disneyland! Nov 2016

5 months

the Cast of Alice in Wonderland

At Santa's boots

Christmas Eve night 2016

9 months old

Garrett & CeCe Buddies forever!









Tuesday, July 5, 2016

A true Little Blessing from above!

Introducing Celise!

She was on her way 14 days after we signed papers with LFS! Her tiny soul had been reading out to ours and our hearts were being prepared to receive her and her birth family! I will go into greater detail later but for now- she is a Healthy 10 week old princess and is the center of attention at our home and almost anywhere we go.

Enjoy some before and after pics of her, her birth mom, Dausi and us!

 OUR PRINCESS- Daughter of  heavenly King!








 We still can't believe she is here so quickly! God is so good !!!

Tuesday, April 26, 2016

Sneak Peek of Hawaii pics

I know it has taken me forever to post on Hawaii but, Here it goes...

WE HAD A BLAST and are ready to buy a second home there in the coming years but, first we have to visit Maui since we have not been there yet.

This trip was to the BIG ISLAND- the island of Hawaii!
 Our view from our balcony/patio room
 HAPUNA BEACH

 Black Sand Beach with a large amount of seat Turtles too!

Our Valentine's Dates :) 

It was so fun taking n our girls and more pics and hopefully some videos to come!

It was here that we were contacted by our agency about a potential adoption situation ~
An expectant mom had looked at our book and was interested in having a convo /skype call
with us. We weren't even in Hawaii for 24 hours when we read the email. 
NOW, we are matched and 1-2 weeks or less away from welcoming a tiny sweet
Wahine into our Ohana! God is Good!

Saturday, March 19, 2016

The REST of Disneyland...

 Reality is- about 80% of our group pictures are like this! I know its asking quite a lot to get everyone to smile all the time but, Hey, we can DREAM!

Tree house fun!


 We love the Tarzan Tree house - its fun and its about Adoption:)




 JUNGLE CRUISE- OR JINGLE CRUISE





Playing at he Tarzan Tree House!

Playing on Tom Sawyer's Island- perfect chance to ditch crowds




 Mater!!!
 Mid- Day nap break- totally worth it and you miss the BUSY times:)
 Waiting in lines- luckily we hardly ad waits:)
 On the ferris wheel with Brielle!
 Classic carousel rides and funny grandpa Danny!
 CUTE BOWS for cute girls


 The Ferris Wheel fun:)
We always ride the train to see dinosaurs and get off our feet for a bit:) Slade crashed


READY to splash it up!


 we took the girls at night for a bit but, only lasted a few rides- we were tired too!


Daddy's FAV ride is the FERRIS WHEEL- NOT! He gets so sick

 


 WE HAD A BLAST!!!!!