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...of opinions don't just run rampant in the WORLD, they are all over the adoption community too. Take today.... I'm in the park and see this cute chinese baby being put into her swing. I look up and her mother is white, which generally leads to adoption ?'s that are always positive and not too intrusive b/c you never know where someone stands. Our conversation led to Brielle's adoption situation and the lady says"I think open adoptions are all about the birth parents- they are uneccessary and there is no REAL study that supports the " this is best for the child" bit! And you know - you can close your adoption at anytime don't you?"I'd never chose that so, we had to go foreign". I cited the ONE study i knew about and said the good and the bad about it but, ultimately- it stated the Obvious...when children know more about their adoptions and things are open- it's not a mystery or a secret...leads to healthier self esteem/ worth...an...

This time Jesse and Brandon went fishing around Boulder. It was a rough fishing day and very cold ( i have no idea why he is in a T-shirt) but the experience was awesome. At times he was crunching through the ice and he could see many fish but most were little. So, neither caught anything but, that's how life is sometimes. It's not always about the end result but the journey and experience. He normally fishes up in Granby and He can't wait to head up that way again soon. Now, he will go to his next fishing stop with more experience and have an even better time. Hopefully, it won't be as cold but, i relate that to our adoption journey too. We must face ALL the elements of this process, regardless if we like them or not. Adoptive couples are going to be picked apart by potential expectant parents and some may even feel they are competing to have the BEST profile or whatnot. We will be de-bunked for really anything a birth parent doesn't like. Maybe it's b/c...

So funny! What I mean is adoptive couples can be so funny to think that they are competing with other adoptive couples. This last week I have talked with a few people who have helped me realize that my sunny outlook on adoption is not shared with everyone! Some people actually think that AP's are trying to one up each other to WIN a birth mom or a baby? That is so pathetic to hear. I also heard that some people feel entitled to ADOPT and that God or the Church OWES them b/c they've done everything right so, why should they be punished with infertility? It's that sense of entitlement that is the detriment of th ese poor hopeful couples. Adopting a baby is NOT a contest to be won and birth mothers are not to be poached or tricked by couples who are not being honest with them! That makes me so sick to my stomach and I'm sorry to say that these certain people need to understand the Atonement and their own personal relationship with God! When a birthmom s...

Today was a great day. It was the first day of the last year of my 20's! Yep, i hit the big 29 ! I can't believe it. I really can't!!! I feel youthful and Life is Just starting! I'm happily married, 2 girls, doing the mom, photographer, singing, arts thing. Being 29 doesn't really seem that old at all. I still like to do fun stuff like dance around the house with my girls and hubby. I can't wait to snowboard this season and i want to enroll in a dance class this spring too! I'm not one to sit on my rear all day. I like to get out and DO things!!! But, i do know what responsibility is and sometimes it STINKS to have to be responsible for everything. And sometimes i love it! I love watching and helping the girls grow into little learners and Christ-centered Children. There is so much a child needs from a mom and a dad in order to thrive and i LOVE giving my heart to them. Even if it means sacrificing a few of my personal wants in life. I know from observing ...