The Christian Crew

I had the privilege of meeting Thomas and His wife and birth mother, Rayanne, and feel their love for their birth child and the parents they chose. Here's a poem that touch my heart.... The Challenge  Months of preparation are now a reality. We held him, looked into his eyes, listen to his coos, loved him And now...he is no longer with us. Yesterday was the worst day of our life, hands down. I know he is loved and will be taken cared for...but, that knowledge can not take away her pain,  dry her tears,  fill the hole in her heart. She is fractured but I will make sure she doesn't brake. She is in pain but I will find a way to comfort her. She fills alone, I will reassure her that this is not the case. She is lost, I will be her light to find her way home. With all my good intentions, I can not ease her sorrow. That fact rips my soul in two. I must be strong, be her strength. Only time will mend her wounds. All I can do is be h...

Over the last couple of days, I have been talking with different Agencies and attorneys and I needed some time to reflect upon all this new information I've been processing. I've been talking to ones in the East and MAN, they do things very differently over there and I'm kind of taken aback- like WAY BACK- 50 yrs or so... WHY? Because one agency told me they are TRADITIONAL meaning they are not FOR open adoptions at all. In Fact, you never meet the expectant mom before she has the baby and you don't come to the hospital or anything until papers are signed. In my heart, that's not right- how would you NOT want to form a relationship with the woman who is choosing you to parent Her child? And in that sentence, I realized that back even 15-20 years ago- most women didn't even have the choice to meet the couples hoping to adopt. That just wasn't the way they did things. Any who, now things are different and We have the choice to build relationships if that...