Our first contact from her was via email on April 7th! We were setting up for an adoption conference that day and we had just finished our CPR class and told our caseworker that we were switching to Foster care b/c we were ready and wanted to see what it was like. He went on about how a cute couple in Grand Junction just got an email from an expectant mom. That night- I got home and we had this email in our inbox too!!!
"Hello, my name is Jessica. I am not entirely sure how to go about this but, i am seriously considering adoption, my due date is May 24th and there are a few families that i have been considering. I don't really have any questions for you at the moment but if you have any please feel free to email back. Thank you.
Please respond by: EMAIL"
WE FREAKED OUT! I told our case worker the next day at the conference that we got an email and He told me- he though it was a mistake or a duplicate accidently sent to my email... I was SAD but, I still inquired and asked her about what drew her to our family ( just to be sure it wasn't a duplicate email). Here's a part of her response...
It was that NERVOUS FIRST MEETING with an expectant mom, who was considering us! We already knew she was fun and had a sense of humor and was gorgeous- we just didn't know if WE WERE IT for sure!
After the 9.5 ours in the car, we didn't even stop to freshen up and the adoption office had already closed that we were going to meet at so, we decided to meet at the MALL ( like, we are totally teens at heart:). We got there before Jess did and our phones were dying and we went to the store to plug them in ( I forgot my charger;) and we paced the floor waiting for her arrival. We were nervous, excited, worried she might not show and Eager most of all, to meet this awesome person.
Finally- She and her entourage arrived and we hugged and said hellos and met her grandma and step mom and went over to grab a bite to eat and get the kids on the carousel while we talked! We asked all kinds of questions and made some small talk and began a fun dialogue that led us to going over to her parents place! We met the rest of the family and it felt so natural- like we had known them for a long time.
Back up about 8 hours - during our car trip... Brandon and I discussed names we liked- lots of good ones to choose from... Slade, Troy, Gavin, Gage and Dane were at the top of our list. We tried on many middle names and the one that seemed so FUN and COOL and TOUGH was the name DANGER!!! Yep, And it sounded best with GAVIN... Gavin Danger! Meanwhile- Jess had been calling her baby PUMA, while in the womb!...
Back to us- heading to her parents house and chatting... we see this cool cat running around the house and she called him DANGER! We were like " oh crap, she is never gonna go for that name now" in our heads! Then we asked her why she called the baby PUMA...
She recounted her dad and step mom wanting to adopt a child from Haiti when all the stuff was going on over there. They thought it would be cool to name a boy ( if they adopted) the name...
"That's Nuts- b/c we like the name GAVIN- b/c your Irish/Scottish and DANGER b/c it's AWESOME!!! WHO woulda THUNK we would all think DANGER was a cool middle name?
BUT, she still hadn't told us that she was choosing us for sure that night. We all decided that would be his name though and it was Unanimous!
We departed for the night and met up in the morning to run around together! I wanted to go to the
Kencraft Candy outlet and Ikea! So, we picked up Jessica and as we were driving- with all I could muster.. I ASKED HER... " So, you may be still figuring out this but, when you do know who you are going to choose... Can you let us know as soon as you know?" And she kind of giggled ( as she often does) Oh , No... It's you guys- FOR SURE! And that was that! We were to be his parents but, we knew she would have to actually face that decision after He was in her Arms!
We had a fantastic rest of our visit and running around ( I wore heels and tripped down the stairs at Ikea and Brandon and Jess just CRACKED up- Thanks guys!) And I made some lasagna for the whole family and we got to know each other so well for such a quick visit. I shot a few sweet pics of her with us and some maternity shots and we hugged and shared the precious little time we had- then went back home to CO- to prepare and wait for this GD- kids' Arrival ( tee hee- Gavin Danger or Gosh Darn:) !!!