Birth mother Quotes and thoughts!




Here are some great quotes on adoption and birth parenting...


He is mine in a way that he will never be hers, yet he is hers in a way that he will never be mine, and so together, we are motherhood. ~desha wood

Jennifer Bouchard Doane, Birthmother and Lifemother.
"A Birthmother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart"

Skye Hardwick
founder of "Life Mothers"
My baby was my gift to the world to show everyone strength in innocence and purity, and one day I pray my baby will come home to me to tell me of his journey that I can take with him.

By: Sarah Sowell
Gave birth to her son April 21st 2004
Open Adoption
If you love someone unconditionally and with your whole heart, then you will do what is best for them, not you. I have never learned a harder lesson than giving my child up for adoption, and I probably never will.

Talitha
Birthmother twice over

Tamra
I once heard a girl who had decided to parent her child say, “My baby’s the best thing that ever happened to me.” I believed her. But I wanted to ask, “Are you the best thing that could’ve happened to your baby?”
I placed my baby for adoption, and I can also say he’s the best thing that ever happened to me. He transformed my life. I loved my child more than words can explain, and I still do. I believe my love for him was the first real love I’d ever felt, because it was completely selfless. It was the BIGGEST feeling I’ve known. My heart grew in my chest the moment I laid eyes on him. Had I loved him any less—one ounce less—he would be with me now! My love for him was the only thing that could enable me to break my own heart. I didn’t just feel love; I did what love dictated.
Tamra, birth mother

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Comments

A Life Being Lived said…
Wow, I love Tamra's quote! I'd like to link back to this post on my blog if you wouldn't mind? I'm a birthmom I have never heard someone said what she said in such a clear and loving way.
March 5, 2011 at 8:24 PM
CCmomma said…
go for it. Tamra is AWESOME and its on IAL.org too!
March 5, 2011 at 9:30 PM
Tiffany said…
I'm sharing our adoption story on my blog and came across your blog looking for quotes on the love of a birthmother. I'm quoting Tamra (and linking to her orginal statement on IAL). It made me tear up. It perfectly sums up what I saw in our birthparents when they walked away and left their baby with us. They loved her so very, very much- that love gave them the strength to make the best choice for her.
March 23, 2012 at 1:14 PM
Wendy (birthmother since 1987) said…
Hands down he hardest thing I have ever done. Loving that sweet boy enough to let go. He changed me forever. I was never the same after him. Every decision I made from there on out was based on what would he think? Would he be proud of me when we meet again one day? He caused me to be a better person his love did. I remember smelling him, that wonderful baby smell they have. I took his onesie home with me and smelled it for weeks after. It took me back to being with him.
May 5, 2012 at 12:41 AM
Lacie said…
I was just looking for a quote to put into a card for Mother's Day for my baby's birth mom. Tamra's was perfect! Thanks!
May 10, 2012 at 6:18 AM
Unknown said…
I am 18 years old, i had my son jan 13 2013 and i chose adoption. I wanted what was best for my son even tho i wanted to keep him. I realized that he came before all my wants and needs. My son has changed my life forever. knowing how percious life really is and knowing i could not give him the things that his adoptive parents could. I really would love to put my story out there for the world to see! can you help.
February 6, 2013 at 7:48 AM
Anonymous said…
I found out I was capable of real love only after I was able to let my 3 children go. I was facing prison time and had put them through more than any person deserves. I had to give them something better. That was the first time I truly loved them. Ultimately I'm also learning to love me. Today is my middle child's 7th birthday and the 3 year anniversary of the last time I held tthem in my arms. Some days are hard but I take solace in knowing I did what was best for them. I only pray one day they understand that as well.
March 26, 2013 at 8:40 PM
Anonymous said…
Wow! I love hearing from the birth mothers! Our son was safely surrendered and is our little blessing! I know his mother must have loved him to take him to the hospital so that he would be "safe". God has truly blessed us! I wish I could thank her...maybe one day :))
December 4, 2013 at 12:04 AM
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